Good guys finish last?

I know a women by the name of Yvette, and a man by the name of Sam. They've been together going on three years now, and well, so far, only Sam has fallen in love. Stabbed in the heart by past relationships Yvette is unable to move on. She believes that if every man she's ever fallen for has cheated and lied and took advantage of her why won' t this one be any different? Not saying that Sam doesn't have any flaws. He has lied before, but never to the point where it came to the expense of their relationship. Sam is a very good man. He has never betrayed his commitment to Yvette or even thought about it. He has made it VERY clear to everyone that Yvette is the one that he wants, yet, its not good enough for Yvette.

Let me give you a little about Yvette though. She has been in at least eight relationships in the past thirty years. She has married and divorced three of them, been abused by four of them, was very controlled by two of them and cheated on by ALL of them. The last man, before Sam, was the worse. He sent her into depression for about a year and caused her alcoholism intake to increase by 200%. He hurt it in some of the most worse ways, lets just leave it simple. And she's never been able to bounce back.

Now let me tell you about Sam. He is absolutely in love with Yvette. He cooks, he cleans, he does everything she asks of him, and always makes sure she is well taken care of. Even when they are arguing he adores her. He told me one night after a heated conversation with Yvette, "Even when we fight like this, I still adore her... because I know in the middle of the night she'll get off that couch, crawl into bed with me, tell me to stay on my side of the bed and get my own blanket, but even then...I'll still be happy. I'll just love having her there close to me. I love her."

I know, what you're thinking, sweet huh? You're probably thinking how could someone that sweet still not have the heart of the one he loves the most? How could Yvette not love him? I told Sam, you just need to keep trying. Don't give up on her. I know deep down she does love you, but she doesn't want to tell you. She doesn't want to open up that vulnerability. He has yet to believe me though. He has commented back saying, "I do everything for Yvette. She's my everything. Yet, I get nothing. Good guys always finish last. I just wish she could see how much I really love her."

In time, I would hope to see something more happen between them. Sam is someone that Yvette has been needing. She just hasn't pushed past her insecurities. I just hope Yvette can open her eyes. I see Sam slowly losing a fight that he shouldn't be losing. And a relationships that deserves to be alive is dying. Maybe good guys do always finish last...

The Loner

I met a guy named Mark, two months ago. To me, he seemed, like every girls hope in a guy. He carried himself with confidence, had a silver tongue the mesmerized me with every quick-witted remark, and he made me laugh. Oh my God did he make me laugh. Did I mention he played guitar, wrote poetry, and sang? Dreamy huh. Those were just an extra few talents that I adored. The one that really caught my attention though was, his brute honesty. If I, or anyone else asked him a question without hesitation he would give you his honest opinion. Whether it be hurtful or not. What some people might think as rude, I thought as a promising characteristic in a guy.

Now, within the time period that I me him, and grew to know, still ever so charmed by him, I had to ask myself, "Why is this guy, this remarkable guy...alone?" One night, about two weeks after meeting him I found out myself. We were an hour deep into a conversation about relationships. Somehow, I messed up though. I commented his confidence in himself whenever he said it wasn't good to open up to anyone. In an outrage he yelled and threw me completely off guard. This guy who I had grown to know and respect, exploded on me, and hung up. I sat there with my phone in front of me astonished. The guy who I thought was so confident so, quick-witted and funny, had done a complete 180 on me all because I asked him about opening up. It was then that I realized, that he wasn't all he was made out to be.

Some of the most confident guys out there I guess are some of the most scared. I didn't really understand that until I met Mark. He confided himself and created this sort of alter ego to try and help him mentally block people out. While he felt so very scared at even the idea of getting close to a girl, he made his actions think otherwise. I thought he was crazy, and thought that he underestimated how good of a guy he was. Why not be in a relationship? They have a lot of benefits. Right? I was shocked at first to think hey, maybe this guy isn't who I thought he was, but really when I got to know him more over time, he was so much more. When I found out how scared he really was, I was more drawn to him. And still am.

Recently, we've grown into a relationship. We're friends. At first I tried to break down his walls. I tried to break down every wall I could with every trick, but unfortunately, I only broke down a couple. He made it very clear to me that he doesn't want to get close to anyone. He just wants to have fun and be single. I guess there are just some people out there who don't want to get close to others. Some just want to stay away from the relationship scene. But I guess really, maybe that's how we all need to start off first. You need to be able to take care of yourself before you get into a relationship and want to take care of them too. Maybe my good friend Mark, isn't thinking so crazy after all.

Introductions Anyone?

Attration. That's where it all begins. Whether it was caused by your friend about how great some guy was, the way this random guy seemed to handle himself as he entered the room, or just the unexplainable. Something about him just seemed...right? Either way it happens I would assume that it starts off something like this.

First, you find a way to conversant with him whether it be one of the possible three. One, you have a friend go up and ask about you because you're kind of shy to do it yourself. Two, you don't tell your friends about him, so you just keep eyeing him from across the room hoping that he'll read your signs and make a move himself. Or three, you just go up and talk to him yourself. You know what they say, men love confidence.

Now, after your conversations gets to going you find yourself interested. He makes you laugh, smile, and even open up a little to him. Soon enough it's time for you to go and you're stuck there wondering where did the time go? He flashes you a cute smile, secretly not wanting you to go, so he asks for your number. Your heart flutters, but you keep your cool. You flash him a smile back and with a quick touch of your fingers your number is dialed into his phone.

Soon enough you find yourself talking to him a lot throughout your day. Either by talking or texting or through e-mail. You try to talk about as much things as possible like what's your latest excitement in life when really he had no idea, that he is. You really start wanting to get into his feelings, thoughts and ideas, and he lets you. Once that happens you find yourself smiling whenever that appealing picture he sent you pops up on your cellphone screen. Almost immediately you that "spark" that you had when you first met feels like its turned into a blaze and you almost have to pull yourself back into reality. This is way more than a friendship.

In the next few weeks you start spending more time with him. You go out, you have fun, you're happy. You are drawn to him like a moth to a light and you almost feel comfortable being vulnerable around him, but you try not to be. You think to yourself "lets go slow" because in your mind the tendency to verbalize your feelings would most likely just push him away. So you sit back, try to play it cool and keep him interested, OR you verbalize your feelings anyways. And in time, a relationship begins.

I'm here to find out why. I am surrounded by relationships daily that have all started in numerous ways. I'm here to tell their stories. I want to find out what exactly attratced them and how they responded towards one another. Every relationships is different. I'm just simple here to point out why.